As part of my professional and personal development, every January I choose a new word to be my motto for the coming year. But this year, I’m a little afraid to tell you my words because it feels really negativity, especially after nearly two years full of negativity.
The word of the year for 2022 is ‘No’.
I tend to please people, so often the default is “yes”, which leads me to do things that are valuable and wonderful but I don’t have time to do. I can’t do my best for everything when I say “yes” so often. This increases my stress and leads to fatigue.
One of my goals and part of Reset personal accountIt is learning to say “no” more often. I’m nervous about it: I don’t want people to not like me because I say “no” to things. But I also know I have a bad habit of agreeing to things and then holding back, and I don’t do You want to be that person.
So for the people-pleasing and hyper-committed among us, this year, let’s embrace the liberating power of saying “no.” This is why you should learn to say “no” more often, along with tips for putting this powerful tool into practice.
Start by checking the gut
One of my favorite simple rules comes about when to say “no.” Derek SiversWho wrote that if your answer wasn’t “Yes the hell!” Then it’s “no”. I’m starting to trust my intuition more, and if I don’t invest right away, I’m learning to give that chance to someone who can make it fairly.
Here’s another question to ask yourself: would you say “yes” if this event/project/opportunity were to take place tomorrow? We often say “yes” to things because they are far in the future and we think we can make time for them. But if our hearts aren’t in it – if it’s not “hell yeah!” – It is likely, then, that you will burden us with regret, no matter how far you may make the commitment in advance.
Protect your calendar – and your mental health
Find out both your current bandwidth and long-term resources before you say “yes” to a new project. If you think you have the time, passion, or space to do it well, say no.
how to do that? Try a calendar instead of a to-do list: look at your calendar first To find the right place. If you already have too many posts on the horizon, I think you know what you want to say.
Or ask yourself the same question that coach Brian Brown asked her:What do you want to be responsible for? “How many things? can Are you responsible before the ball drops? Don’t waste your time and energy – both you and the person you said “yes” to – on a project you can’t complete.
Ask someone else for help
I’ve almost finished reading this article, and I’m still nervous about saying “no”.
When I admitted this fear to my coach, she suggested I call or email her to get approval before I said “yes” to anything. brilliant. Obviously, I still reserve the option to say “yes” to something, but throw back the idea from someone else first It helps me make better decisions. The second opinion can act as an “insurance policy” that prevents you from going astray of your own will to please yourself.
Learning to say “no” is really hard. But if I’m the kind of person who makes me happy (and I certainly am), is it worse to say “no” from the start or to say “yes”, but then do poorly or back out at the last minute? What response will actually make you a more likable and more respected person?
I know that a lot of times, ‘no’ is the right thing to say, but I’m still nervous about it, and doing so will probably still be difficult for me. This way I know it’s the right word for a year of real growth: it Must Be a challenge.
Do you have a word of the year to share? What do you plan to say “no” to this year? Let me know on LinkedIn. I’d love to hear your thoughts!
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